Motherhood is more than just caring for a child. It’s about us — our fears, joys, needs, and growth alongside our little ones.
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In this piece, we — myself, a mother and Montessori expert, and Inna Chubatyuk, psychologist, psychotherapist, and founder of the SIAIVO Psychological Platform — bring together our experiences to support you. We want you to know: you are not alone, your struggles are normal, and the path to restoring your energy starts with small but meaningful steps.

 

My Journey

 

I prepared for motherhood with love and excitement. Pregnancy was filled with anticipation. But after my daughter was born, reality hit: breastfeeding challenges, sleepless nights, anxiety, exhaustion. I tried to be “perfect” until I realized — children sense our emotions. If the mother is anxious, the child feels it. If the mother is calm, the world feels safe.
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What’s important to know: no preparation can shield you from every challenge. But what can help is the inner permission to be human — to ask for help and to accept support.

Inna’s Journey: From Rock Bottom to Radiance

 

Inna Chubatyuk wasn’t always a psychotherapist. Her journey began from personal pain: a toxic marriage, low self-esteem, the belief “I’m not worthy of anything good.” One day, she realized:
“If I can survive all this, it doesn’t mean I have to!”
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Her path — through personal therapy, hard work on her mindset, and reshaping how she saw herself and the world — became the foundation for SIAIVO, a space where anyone can find safety, support, and strength.
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Today, as a mother of three, a wife, and a therapist, Inna helps others reclaim joy, self-love, and belief in change.

Why We Lose Our Energy

 

Mothers often become exhausted not just because of the demands of caring but because of:

  • comparing themselves to others,

  • idealizing the image of the “perfect mom,”

  • feeling guilty for resting or accepting help,

  • living in survival mode without giving themselves breaks.
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    Remember: your child doesn’t need a perfect mom. They need a real mom who knows how to rest and care for herself.

How to Reclaim Yourself: Techniques We Recommend

 

✅ “I” Messages:


Say, “I’m exhausted because I’ve been with the baby all day. I need 30 minutes of quiet.” This helps you be heard without conflict.

 

✅ “Eat That Frog” Technique:


Choose one important thing just for you each day and do it first. This brings back a sense of control.

 

✅ Gratitude Journal:


Every evening, write down three things you’re grateful for — about yourself and your loved ones. This shifts focus to the positives.

 

✅ Mini Rituals:


A quiet cup of tea, a walk, a favorite podcast while doing chores — small pockets of peace.

 

✅ Permission to Be Imperfect:


You have the right to rest. Accepting help is strength, not weakness.

The Montessori Perspective: Why Calm Matters

 

From the Montessori philosophy, I’ve learned that the environment shapes the child. And the most important part of that environment is calm, loving parents. Hugs, songs, gentle rituals — these are the true foundation of a child’s secure world.

Why We’re Raising This Topic

Inna and I believe motherhood should not feel like a survival marathon. It’s about joy, connection, energy, and the right to be imperfect.
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This article is an invitation — to reflect, to talk, to change. If you need support, reach out. If you want to share your story, write to us. We are here to remind you: being a happy mom is possible. And it starts with caring for yourself.

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